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Halloo,
You know what? When you truly stop giving a hoot about what people think, you will see how easy it is to see through their bullshits.
You don’t believe me?
I don’t blame you. I think most of us say we don’t care what people think, but their negative comments or opinions about us still hurt. Why?
My personal opinion is that this happens because we still don’t have absolute trust in our own judgement, decisions, or destinations.
I mean there will be self-doubt along the way, happens to everyone. But, when opinions of people who have no idea what your story is, or no knowledge of where you are headed start messing with your self-confidence, then you really need to start asking yourself this important question:
Do I trust myself?
We do many things for different reasons, and once you know why you are doing a particular thing and you totally trust it, the people judging you, criticizing you, laughing at you, or doing whatever shouldn’t matter.
Some people spent their life living other people’s life. They go around snooping and watching. You never know they are watching until they have something negative to say.
Please don’t waste your energy on such people. Learn to listen to everything but react to the relevant.
Many will project their fear unto you. Things that are holding them captive in their lives will be passed to you as something to fear.
Some of these people, in fact, most of these people have good intentions. They genuinely believed they are saying the right thing.
Just remember what Nelson Mandela said- It always seems impossible until it’s done.
Know your journey. Know it so well, and commit it to your being.
Your method of getting there may change but the journey should be the same.
I say all these because I get all these crazy messages from people who think they know what is best for me, advising me on how to run my life.
I get pissed off because most of these people are there ignoring me and what I do, which is totally fine. But to now pop up once in a while to offer advice?
I stop explaining myself to anybody a long time ago. I think it is unnecessary because if you shout from now till next week, they only believe what they want to believe. So why have a sleepless night over that?
I guess this is one of the things living with Chronic illness taught me- not to waste the little energy I have on things or people who don’t matter.
I have gone through soul-destroying pain for weeks, not able to go to work, do my business, practically at the lowest of the low, who did I see- nobody. I had to claw my way out as I have done all my life.
I beg you to trust yourself and do what you believe to be the best for you. Of course, you might make mistakes, totally fine, just learn from them. After all, nothing toughened you more than mistakes, lessons learned from them stick to memory than those from doing things right.
Be confident in your abilities.
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Stay with me,
Ruka
Stay with me,
Ruka
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