Who Are The Social Network Ghosts?

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Halloo,

Is there anyone out there who responds to total strangers saying hello to them in private messages on social networks?

If your answer is yes, you need to reevaluate yourself again. It is absolutely dangerous. Honestly, very dangerous. Didn’t your momma warned you not to talk to strangers?

As there are so many different Social Networks so are many creeps. Don’t believe me? Read on.

It is called Social Network for a reason. Be social.

A stranger who wants to get to know me will have to interact with me in the open forum. This is a healthy way to start a friendship. This is how I develop trust in someone.

Hiding and interacting only in private says you have something to hide. I don’t trust people like that. Come out in the open and let the whole world see you if you are a trustworthy person.

I always ignore messages from people I don’t know in real life. Those I don’t know in real life but have taken the pain to interact with me in the open forum I definitely answer back. But as a general rule, you must be someone I trust before I speak with you in private.

I get all these messages from total strangers saying ‘Hi, hello, how are you, and things like that’ on social media private messages. I just shake my head, hard to imagine that anybody will answer these kind of messages unless they are desperate for attention.

Some will poke or wave. What does that “Poke” mean? I have no idea. I really don’t want to know anyway because I won’t answer.

Another issue is people with no Profile Pictures. I keep such people at arm length, unless I know them in real life. I quite understand that some people don’t want their faces seen, but for me I just can’t trust a person that I can’t see.

It is social media. Nothing social about a faceless individual. People like this worry me a lot. They could be serial killers for all I know. I am not taking chances.

There are some dead pages with no friends, no interactions, nobody saying hello, nobody wishing the person happy birthday, greetings, just nothing. I will be wary of such person. You should too.

Social media have a lot of advantages to tap into, but also dangerous if you don’t protect yourself. Look carefully. I don’t accept friend request from total strangers who don’t have at least 10 known people on my page. I am not being snobbish. I am protecting myself and my friends.

If you have a business proposition for me, I find it really helpful if you go straight forward and state your case rather than saying ‘Hi’ and waiting for me to respond. Or saying ‘ Can I discuss something with you’ this maybe genuine but I don’t respond to such unless I know you. I consider this time wasting.

Who knows, I may be missing out on opportunities by doing this. But I will rather be safe than sorry. My people, Yorubas from Nigeria, say ‘The water a person will drink will never flow past the person” meaning- what is yours will be yours. If an opportunity is meant to be mine, I will eventually get it.

Many people don’t know that it is a great help when you share, comment, like, and interact the posts of small businesses. Most social networks view businesses with interactions like these favourably. So instead of going to hide in private asking to chat, come out and chat on the open page.

Even chatting with people I know in real life is hard. Time is tight. I do make time to communicate and keep in touch with people that are important to me. But i draw the line at time wasting, no matter how much i love and respect the person.

I am a wife, a mother, I have a salary job, I blog, and I also run my own business. That is not even mentioning several other issues that I have to deal with on daily basis.

Sometimes it takes me ages to responds to messages because I have to deal with my clients messages first. Many take it that you are snobbish. I can only wish they step into my shoes to see how easy it is.

Inviting a small business owner to chat is like asking someone with a brick and mortar shop to leave her premises to come out and play with you during business hour. Why not come into her shop and talk with him/ her as she is doing her business? It helps a lot.

Engaging with ghosts is really dangerous. This is the main reason many people get scammed on social media. Some people are so celebrity crazy that anybody can approach them on social media impersonating celebrities and they fall for it.

There are so many dangerous animals out there looking for prey. Most of us will find it strange if a total stranger waved at us or start chatting with us in real life but answer same on social media. Really dangerous.

People, take responsibility and shine your eyes. Stop communicating with faceless people. Protect yourself. So many fake profiles out there being used to perpetrate evil.

Do you think I am making sense? let me hear your views in the comment section below. Thanks.

Stay with me,

Ruka

About Post Author

Ruka

My name is Ruka. Born and bred in Nigeria. Now living in Ireland. I am a Woman, Feminist, Wife, Mother, Muslim, Black, and African. I am an Entrepreneur who also works in Finance Administration. I am a Fibromyalgia & Chronic Pain Warrior. I love writing and hope to make a name for myself doing it.

rukaganiyu5@gmail.com

https://www.rukasplace.com

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