Have you ever come across that saying- What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger- have you heard it before? That saying is true. But that comes with a lot of fighting on your part, no two ways about it. You have to fight.
I love talking about mental health not because my physical health is not important but because many people, especially those from my African community, do not place as much importance on mental health as they do physical health.
I went to see a podiatrist, which cost a fortune. Another part of living with chronic pain and fibromyalgia that doesn’t get talked about much is the expense. Freaking expensive to see us standing like every other human being.
I have always wanted to make my impact in this world and had so many grand plans of how I was going to achieve this. Then, fibromyalgia came calling and all that seems gone for good. I became lost and couldn’t find my purpose. It is like a death sentence to someone like me, an ambitious person.
Imagine in your hour of need you meet someone who described what you are feeling as if you are the person describing it. Believe me, you will listen. Not only listen but listen with all your being. That is the power of shared experiences.
I want to share a little story with you to drive home the point that we need to be kind and considerate to everyone we meet because emotional problems and mental health issues are invisible.
My search for cure and solution with the fact that nobody can exactly tell me what is wrong with me is what led to depression, not the pain itself. The more I search, the more depressed and anxious I became. Especially, since all my efforts weren’t leading anywhere.
I hope you are all doing good wherever you are in the world? I am not just asking this as a form of greetings or to be pleasant. I really mean it. Are you doing okay? Please, check-in with yourself and answer truthfully.
That you are having a rough time does not mean everyone you meet must suffer from it. It is a matured person who will make the effort to maintain their attitude even in the face of great temptations.
Do you have a friend going through a rough time, a family member in distress or suffering from an invisible illness? And this person chooses to confide in you? You are so scared of doing or saying the wrong thing or adding more to the person’s problem. Relax!