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Halloo,
This is one issue that I can’t talk about without getting emotional.
I don’t use the word ‘HATE’ lightly so you will understand the extent of my grievance when I say:
‘I hate Time-Wasters’
It is one of those things I find really hard to let go. Wasting my time, thinking or acting like your time is more valuable than mine, total disregard of and for my time.
Many people find me unforgiving when it comes to this issue of time wasting.
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With all humility I say that:
‘I am a wife, I am a mother of 3 young children, I have a 9-5 job working as a Finance Administrator, I own a small business, I am a blogger. I live with Fibromyalgia and Chronic Pain.’
I take each of these roles seriously!
Do you need me to tell you how my daily life works? NO, you have a pretty idea from the above statement. I am constantly on a skate, there is always something needing my attention.
Now, tell me how you can blame me when I pause from my busy daily life to give precious time to someone and they think it’s okay to mess with it, and I refuse to accept it?
A friend and I once made an arrangement to meet up. I moved things around to make this time possible. 15 minutes to the time I got a text message: ‘Sorry, I can’t make it.’ No explanation.
So, when this friend asked to meet up again. I refused. Not just for not showing, but the fact that she doesn’t think I deserve an explanation for her cancelling. I am also angry that more time wasn’t given before cancelling, this may have given me time to make arrangements to do other things.
This is why I don’t do friendship.
If you call most of these people up on their behaviour, they act like you make too much out of nothing. So, you are a difficult person. Maybe so.
When I have to cancel on an arrangement I give enough time to let the other person make other plans. If due to circumstances this is not possible I make sure the other party understands the situation by explaining what happened.
I don’t think it is unreasonable to expect this from anyone. Am I wrong?
How about those who think their time is more valuable than yours? Check this:
I once drove to someone’s house for a pre-arranged meeting, only to be told by the person’s husband that she is sleeping. I never got a call from this person until weeks later. I closed that door firmly.
And, I am the bad guy here?
Have you ever call someone on the phone to just say hello and the person picking up the phone to say they are sleeping or busy?
That is not a crime and seems genuine enough. Where it gets tricky is when the said person never call-back when they woke up or became less busy.
What message are you passing to me?
I read it as you don’t have any interest in speaking to me and absolutely do not appreciate the time and efforts that go into making that call.
We are cool once you don’t expect me to call again.
But what gets me really angry is when the same person will now turn around months later and accuse me of not CALLING!
I know some people forget, but I seem to notice a lot of selective forgetting in many people.
They forget to call you back but have clear memory of you not calling them. I am not buying!
If it were possible I will increase the number of hours in a day to 30 hours, just so I can get more done. Since this is not possible, I make do. So, if I give you the gift of time and you mess me about, please don’t be surprised if you meet a brick wall next time you come calling.
Sounds petty? Maybe.
This is how I feel. I can’t give 100% of my time to those who give 20% of their time and still expect me to come running when they click their fingers. What do you think?
Stay with me
Ruka
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