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Halloo,
What a year! 2021 really is one interesting year for me.
I will be telling a big lie if I said the year 2021 went smoothly for me. Oh no! Too many challenges, I don’t even know where to begin. I struggled a lot this year – my health, business, work, finance, in short everything took some hits. So, I am glad the year is finally about to be over and looking forward to a better 2022.
2021 wasn’t all bad, don’t get me wrong, good things happened too. I will be an ungrateful person not to acknowledge this fact. As always in life, there are ups and downs. Many great things happened and I am hoping there will be more of the great things in 2022.
I want to step into the new year with these things in place, I think you might benefit from them too.
1- I want to stop running away from my problems
Some problems, when confronted, can motivate us to get things done. Some things happen to us in life and lead us to be a better person. I totally believe this. I am not sure how kind and understanding I would have been if I didn’t have fibromyalgia. I will never know!
There are issues in my life that I have not given proper attention to. I want to change that. I want to meet these problems head-on and see how I can deal with them. Hopefully, this will lead to more personal growth and might open my eyes to some solutions others can benefit from.
I want to face my problems, mistakes, and whatever boldly. Accept them for what they are. Take responsibility for the part I played in them. And then see how they can be resolved.
2– Improve my effort on positive self-talk and self-love
I am going to increase my positive self-talk as a coping skill for difficult times. I do this already and it worked. The problem is I don’t remember to use this strategy when everything is going downhill. I need to have a more concrete plan ready for difficult times.
I tell myself how great I am doing. How much I have achieved despite my limitations. I remind myself of the many lives I touched. I read emails, texts, and others from people who have felt my impact. I tell myself how I can still do more. I tell myself to hang in there.
3- I want to have a clear goal or goals
Going forward I want to be very clear about my goals. I strongly suspect that one of the reasons my motivation wavered this year was that my goals were too vague.
4- Moderate my screen time further
The time I spent on my phone has been greatly reduced in the last half of this year. And I have already seen an increase in my creativity. My intention is to reduce it further to give myself a chance to re-evaluate where I am going.
I know our phones are there for our convenience but I think it is time I spend more time with people in real life. I have started noticing a disconnect in my interactions with people in 2021.
I am an extremely busy person and I love it that way. This is how I fight to live with chronic pain, I keep moving. But my mental health is taking a hit from only interacting on screen.
Before Covid, I am not a very social person but I was able to interact with people in real life at work. Covid changed how we work, most of my colleagues work from home, I chose to go to the office. But I am the only person in my section most of the time.
5- Work on my confidence
Like I said earlier a lot of things happened this year that really affected me. These challenges took their toll on my confidence. I mean the business I spent about 7 years building was almost wiped out. My self-confidence was on the floor for anybody to step on. It was hard, it is still hard.
Anyway, moving forward is my hope and goal. To be able to get this done I need my confidence back. I love what I do and believe everything happens for a reason. We are given what we need to achieve our goals, although it might not be what we think we want at the time.
6- Don’t take things too seriously
I am one of those people who laugh easily and laugh a lot. I also don’t take myself too seriously. It comes naturally.
2021 rob a little bit of that from me. Too many problems affected my mood negatively.
I will love to bring this back in full force. I want to be my former self, the person who faced her problems without losing her sense of humour.
7- Work on my self-discipline
I am generally a disciplined person. This year really put my self-discipline to the test. I struggled a lot and my motivation level dropped. It is hard getting up after being knocked down several times.
I am going to work on bringing my self-discipline back up.
8– I want to prevent burnout
I don’t want to wait till I reach the point where I feel like I simply can’t take it anymore before I take steps to protect myself.
I am one of the lucky ones who know the importance of mental wellbeing and take steps to protect mine. I want to acknowledge the fact that this doesn’t mean that I don’t feel vulnerable. I do, especially when everything in my life is so shaky.
This is one of the reasons why I am writing this piece. A reminder to myself to stay on top of protecting my mental health as much as possible.
9- I want to listen to my body more
I want to listen to my body more. I realised I don’t take some health concerns as seriously as I should. I put it down to living with fibromyalgia, I am so used to new symptoms emerging out of nowhere that it is sometimes not clear whether to just ignore or rush to the doctor.
I am not going to let this happen anymore. I lived in agony for months with leg pain thinking it was fibromyalgia related. I finally went to the doctor and it was treated. I could have saved myself the torture.
10- I want to make more time for myself
I am into yoga, meditation, walking outdoors, and therapy. I find them very useful and make life easier. The current situation with Covid made these activities to be reduced and my financial situation made some of them be abandoned.
I will love to bring all these and more back to help with my mental health.
11- I need constant reminder that Slow and steady wins the race
I am not someone who is ever going to win any award where patience is concerned, so slow and steady wins the race needs to be repeated multiple times to me to make an impact. I am even considering writing it out with a Marker and pasting it on my wall- as a constant reminder.
I need to remind myself always to take baby steps to make whatever I am aiming for achievable without tears. As you must have noticed in this write up I have a lot of changes I want to make for the better. It is important not to rush things. These things require long-term commitments; hence they should be approached with patience.
12- I want to create time to work on my dreams.
My life is full of activities and it is hard to see how I can squeeze anything more into it. But I have some things I have always dreamed of doing in my lifetime that I am not doing anything about right now.
Well, I want to put a stop to that. I am going to make time out to work on this. I am not getting younger. I know we can achieve our dreams at any age, why not start working towards it now? I think if I don’t, it will remain just a dream. I can’t have that!
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Stay with me,
Ruka
Stay with me,
Ruka
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